- Put down your phone. It’s okay to not be constantly connected to all of your friends at all times. The group text won’t fail miserably without you. No one is going to think you’re dead if you take two hours to reply. Take some advice I once got from a first date “my mom said it was rude to check my phone or my watch when I’m around other people, I shouldn’t want to give off the vibe that I’m in a rush to leave and don’t want to take full advantage of the time with them.”
- Discover something about yourself. As lovely as it sounds to take a personality quiz online, I don’t recommend you discover which Friday Night Light’s guy is right for you. I’m talking deep, down, real shit discovering. Try something you’ve never done before and see if you like it. You never know what lessons you’ll learn when faced in an unusual situation.
- Cook a meal. To everyone sitting there thinking “I cook all the time, doesn’t food out of a box count?” No, it doesn’t. We’re talking a multi course, multi element meal. Look on Pinterest, check a cook book, shoot… call your grandma for a recipe, even better! Find something that you have to prepare for with going to the store, spending time in the kitchen and enjoying a meal. Invite some friends over for a dinner party and cheers to a new accomplishment while enjoying your domestic dinner.
- No direction is still a direction. It’s okay if you don’t know where life is heading and you feel lost. You don’t think you have your shit together. You complain about adulting. It’s okay. You’re not alone. It’s a sign that you’re not okay with being complacent. Slowly figure out what will get you a place of peace and happiness. It’s a journey, but at least you’re not alone.
- Don’t waste your time with mediocre. That girl you met at Starbucks isn’t really putting time into your friendship, that guy hasn’t called you back lately, the dessert you ordered isn’t really that satisfying… it’s all just… mediocre. And not worth your time and energy. You can’t get back that time you wasted on mediocrity.
- Be active. I know what you’re saying… duh, Casey, that’s everyone’s resolution… but I mean it. I’m not saying go buy a gym membership, but I am saying take the stairs instead of the elevator.
- It’s okay to be sad. You don’t need to say sorry for not being happy. It happens to all of us. Life is so far from perfect and it’s tough to go at it alone. Emotions make us real. Don’t try to hide your emotions to yourself or to anyone around you. Be a real human, not a robot.
- Laugh at yourself. You’re going to make mistakes and you’re going to do regrettable things. Own it, dude.
- Don’t settle. You’re doing just fine with work and socially. You have a group of friends to hang out with. You’re comfortable. But you want more. Don’t let the comfort and safety of your surroundings keep you from achieving more. You never know what’s out there if you don’t give it a spin.
- Be real. With yourself. With your friends. With your dates. Don’t hide behind words. Be who you say you are and do it with pride. It’s understandable that you don’t want to hurt others, but you have to be true to yourself and that should gain the respect everyone around you.
- Doubt is the root of failure. Stop telling yourself that you can’t before you even try. You’ll never fully achieve what you’re capable of with that little voice in the back of your head doubting you. Remember, failure is your first attempt at learning and we’re never too old to stop learning.
- You’re not entitled to tomorrow. Life is so fucking short. Try the new food, visit a new place, love a new lover. You never know when your time is going to be over.
- Smart is just a word. You won’t be the most street smart person in the room, or the most book smart, probably not even the most people smart… but that doesn’t mean you aren’t intelligent or intuitive. Smart is just a word. Don’t let it be a barrier. A little of everything goes a long way.
- Give up the booze. No one’s telling you to stop drinking cold turkey for the rest of your life… just take your foot off the gas pedal and enjoy some sober fun, and the perks that come with it. Can you say beach bod?!
- Read. I don’t give a care if it’s a book or USA Today. Start reading. Your brain will thank you later when you haven’t lost the interest to read for fun and enjoyment. When you haven’t lost the ability to read quickly. When you find yourself lost in a moment with a character, or deep into a story on the news… your brain will thank you.
- Legacy is key. If you left the world tomorrow, would you leave behind a group of people touched by you? Or would you leave behind nothing but a Facebook profile and some casual interactions? Every day has meaning. Every interaction, no matter how big or small, is how you’re going to be remembered. Be the light in a room full of darkness. Spread love and kindness to everyone you’re around. Be a loyal friend and lover. Leave a legacy of ambition and drive, loyalty and honesty, and make others aspire to live the way you did.
16.5… Think about what you’ve done well… think about what you can do better.. write it down and keep track of your progress. Remember, the hardest part is trying something for the first time. xox