It seems that the harder a gal works in the real world, the less likely she is to have a boyfriend. Her goals keep her away from the messy, time-consuming dating world. She focuses her energy on reaching career and life goals. Working hard and taking no prisoners. But deep down, there’s something real that the the seemingly unemotional work-a-holic desires from a partner
Many of us focus our efforts in relationships to not fall too deeply for someone else, to no let someone else get in the way of the end goal. Want some tips on breaking through a layer or two of this “no effs given” exterior?
- I need daily interaction. Just because I’m a busy girl, it doesn’t mean that I don’t want to wake up to a “good morning” text or fall asleep to a “sweet dreams” text. We don’t have to talk all day, every day, let’s face it… neither of us should have the time for that.
- Surprises. A little fun never hurt nobody. Take the wheel and plan something fun. It can be something as simple as showing up with a pint of my favorite ice cream when you know I’ve had a bad day. Tell me to pack a bag for an overnight trip to a surprise location. Work with my roommate and plan a surprise lunch when I think I’m meeting up with her. Nothing is too big or too small to make an impression on me, and don’t worry, I’ll take notice.
- Help with day to day tasks. Chances are I’m used to doing everything by myself. I take responsibility for what needs done and I do it. It’s not the worst thing in the world to have someone offer to accompany you to run your errands, cook dinner with you, shoot even help you match socks while you watch TV. Make me feel part of a team and that you have my back.
- Support my career. Understand that I take work seriously and I enjoy the stress. I want to be good at what I do, don’t make my passion for work something about you. Be there for me when I’m low, be there for me when I’m high. I don’t expect you to put your career on hold for me, but don’t expect me to drop mine for you. Let’s be successful together.
- Let me be me. I want to have my own life outside of us as a couple. Hobbies, friends, two feet to stand on to carry me through life. Let me have girls night and expect the same from me. I don’t need you to account for your every move. That’s what trust is for. Don’t get me wrong, I want to be with you and I want you to enjoy doing things that I enjoy, but neither of us should compromise being an individual.
All in all, it’s about finding someone to enjoy life’s adventures with. Someone to help push you to be the best and someone that wants you pushing them, too. Finding the balance of being a passionate individual and a working companionship is hard, but worth it. Moral of the story: be someone that supports, surprises and loves someone, and find someone who supports you with the same passion.